Thursday was 'International Day of Happiness'. I met the girls for lunch on Thursday, two really lovely girls, and for that moment, sat eating, chatting, laughing, gossiping - I was happy. I am lucky. Very lucky. To have such fabulous friends, who accept me for who I am. Who love me 'just as I am'.
This made me think. I had already been thinking about this. I had been thinking about this quite a lot actually. What is happy? When is the last time that I felt happy? Am I happy? So, when is the last time that you felt happy? Are you happy? What makes us happy?
"Ask yourself whether you are happy and you cease to be so?" This was the thinking of John Stuart MILL (the English Philosopher and Political Economist) who wrote about ideas such as Utilitarianism, Liberty, and Freedom of Speech. In even asking the question 'are we happy' and analysing the answer, are we questioning our own happiness, and therefore reducing the probability that we actually are happy? Do I deserve to be happy? I do ask myself that. I question that. I question whether I deserve to be happy? I question that all of the time. This probably isn't healthy. Everyone deserves to be happy. Don't they? To find their 'own kind of happy'. I'm sure that happiness, what it is to be happy, means different things to different people.
And I mean 'Happy'. Really 'Happy'. As opposed to 'Content'. As opposed to 'Satisfied'. As opposed to 'Pleased'. I mean HAPPY.
I think for me, happiness doesn't mean wealth and material possessions or fame or fortune. For me happiness means loving and being loved. They say that you can't buy happiness. This I think is probably true. I think that it probably true for me, for my kind of happiness. They say that 'you can't buy happiness, but you can buy tea and that is kind of the same thing'. There is certainly some truth in that too I think.
So what is it that makes me happy? Perhaps it is true that it is the simple pleasures in life that make us happy, that make me happy. Bring us the most pleasure and the most happiness. For me, it is probably a combination of the following things that make me happy. I've drawn up a little list:
♥ Time spent with friends
♥ Laughing / ♥ Talking / ♥ Sharing ideas
♥ Tea / ♥ Chocolate / ♥ Ice-Cream - i.e. the three major food groups
♥ A Good Book
♥ Feeling Warm
♥ Good Health
♥ Benedict CUMBERBATCH
I think that happiness is probably linked to kindness and also linked to well-being; I think that there is probably an inextricable link between the three (Kindness, Happiness, Well-Being) (see my KINDNESS BLOG post from a few weeks ago).
I have MS. So for me 'Good Health' is always going to be a struggle, so I shall try and concentrate on the other things on my list. There is also probably a lot of truth in the statement that: "Nobody really cares if you are miserable, so you might as well be happy." So, find what it is that makes you happy, and don't think too hard or too long about it; but find what it is or find who it is that make you happy, truly makes you happy, and do more of that.